- I produced a spreadsheet to monitor my progress throughout chemotherapy treatment and made a note of side effects at each stage so I became familiar with what to expect as my "normal". (During chemotherapy, I made a note of the days my mouth was sore and found this usually followed a pattern each cycle and correlated with my immune system dropping lower).
- I kept a notebook to jot down all of my concerns to share with my consultant at each appointment to keep the meeting time efficient and to make sure I didn't forget anything.
- I had a quote each week to keep me focused and tried to make a note of something good that happened each day - just simple things like a nice meal, a visitor, a country walk. Doing this helped me to remind myself of the good days on the days I struggled more. I also took lots of photographs when I went out for walks so I had visual reminders that I was still enjoying life despite having to jump through treatment hoops.
- I was very guarded throughout treatment about who I told because my own positivity felt fragile and I couldn't cope with anyone saying anything negative. Guard yourself, you have a right to protect your own thought space.
- I went on the internet and researched all of the statistics and bad things which could go wrong. I recommend against this as it does nothing to help you and sends you down a wormhole of bad thoughts. Time can be better spent on reading inspirational books, blogs and articles on healthy living and how to prepare for treatment.
- I found music very therapeutic, either for making me feel like I had a dedicated sympathiser or for lifting me back up again.
Not everyone is comfortable with the war-like words associated with cancer because they feel it implies you have a choice about winning or losing against a disease which doesn't play fair. I am comfortable with the war-like word associations because for me the battle is a mental one and a mental battle which I continue to fight daily, regardless of what happens to my physical self. "Metasteses of the mind" is an anxiety battle and I acknowledge that and live with it peacefully. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mindfulness/
A really funny story which has been a comfort to many is Mountain Lion (Google "Mountain Lion Cancer") which is posted on various online sites.
This blog really sums up the breast cancer journey in many ways, written from the perspective of a nurse who developed cancer: https://anticancerclub.com/inspiring-stories-from-cancer-survivors/dear-every-cancer-patient-ever-took-care-im-sorry-didnt-get/
Here are some of my favourite quotes which helped me mentally:
Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.
You don't have a right to the cards you feel you should have been dealt, you have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you're holding
And once the storm is over you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You wont even be sure whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about.
Be gentle with yourself, you are doing the best you can.
Something will grow from all that you are going through and it will be you.
Hope means we must trust and wait for what is still unseen.
I am learning to trust the journey even when I don't understand it.
Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help and brave enough to ask for it.
Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to.
A little progress each day adds up to big results.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up.
Your scars are someone else's sign of hope.
You may see me struggle but you will never see me quit.
Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.
Don't look back, you're not going that way.
What doesn't kill you gives you a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms and a really dark sense of humour.
Dost though love life? Then do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of.
Planning is an unnatural process; it is much more fun to do something. The nicest thing about not planning is that failure comes as a complete surprise, rather than being preceded by a period of worry and depression. --John Harvey-Jones
Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. I do not claim that anything which worked for me would work the same for you. This blog is no substitute for the advice of your doctor. Always seek medical advice if you have any concerns. Always check with your consultant before taking any supplements. This blog is my personal journey and a journal of how I coped. I do not take any financial incentives from any products mentioned.